May 4, 2012

The Distraction Technique

Today I want to pass along something I learned from pastor and author Joe Dallas on resisting temptation. The distraction technique helps you resist the many visual triggers we all experience every day.

For an alcoholic, this might be a Budweiser commercial on TV, or a billboard advertisement on the highway. For a shopoholic this might be storefront windows at the mall or the QVC channel. Or for someone struggling with a sexual addiction, visual triggers are everywhere.

Regardless of what your specific addiction is, suffice it to say there are endless supply of visual triggers that are designed to entice you (to tempt you), but implementing the distraction technique can help. It’s a simple three-part exercise: shift, breathe, recite (and it will help you build some resisting muscle so you can be strong against temptation).

1. Shift

Our goal is to reduce the triggers in the environments we have control over. But there will be times where we don’t have control over the environment and where we’ll experience triggers, even if we aren’t looking for them. These are opportunities to exercise and workout our resisting muscles. And we do that when we choose to shift our attention and focus quickly on to something other than what is tempting us.

Some of you might push back - what’s the big deal about looking? I thought the rule was “look but don’t touch”? I would reply that looking leads to touching! The Bible calls a second look “entertainment” and teaches that it leads to “indulgence”. Take King David of the Old Testament for example.

2 Samuel 11:1-5, In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king’s men and the whole Israelite army...But David remained in Jerusalem. 2 One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful, 3 and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, “She is Bathsheba...the wife of Uriah the Hittite.” 4 Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her... 5 The woman conceived and sent word to David, saying, “I am pregnant.” (NIV)

Enticement - David saw a beautiful woman bathing

Entertainment - David sent someone to find out about her

Indulgence - David slept with her

Now, according to Scripture at what stage did David lose the battle? The entertainment stage, right? It’s not a sin to be enticed. And as much as we may try to minimize our enticements, we can never fully avoid them. But the line was crossed when he took that second look, when he began entertaining sleeping with her even though she was not his wife. That had to be an idea in his head before it became a reality in his life. The Bible teaches that entertainment leads to indulgence.

SO THE KEY is to stop temptation at the enticement stage by SHIFTING our attention quickly to something else before we begin to entertain the enticement.

So when you’re hit with a visual trigger, you have to shift visual gears, by refocusing your eyes immediately to something safe. When you do this you are mentally changing the channel. If you’re watching TV and your kids are in the room and something scary comes on, you change the channel quickly, right? Why? Because you want to quickly divert their attention to something else before what they see begins to negatively affect them. Similarly, when we encounter a visual trigger, we want to quickly divert our attention to something else, before the trigger begins to negatively effect us (and before we’re so enticed we begin to entertain). Temptation acts like one of those blood pressure cuffs the nurse uses to check your blood pressure. With every squeeze the grip tightens, right? Similarly, every second you continue looking at whatever is tempting you, temptation's grip tightens. As you know from getting your blood pressure taken, it doesn’t take long for the grip to get real tight.

Jesus alluded to the power of our eyes in Luke 11:34 when he said, “Your eye is the lamp of your body. When your eyes are healthy, your whole body also is full of light. But when they are unhealthy, your body also is full of darkness.” The principle here is that: what you focus on has more impact than you’ve probably realized. This is especially true regarding temptation. You have to look away quickly before you’re unable to break free from temptations grip.

And that’s what “shifting” is all about.

2. Breathe

Isn’t it true that breathing can actually help us regain control? If your kid is crying and can’t be consoled, what do you tell them? Take a deep breath, right? If you’re so angry you're ready to punch someone in the face, a good friend might try to calm you down saying “hey, take a couple deep breaths”. If you've been in a car accident and are frantic and the paramedics arrive, they will instruct you to sit down and take a couple deep breaths. God designed our bodies in a way where breathing can help us regain control. And we should take advantage of this fact when battling our addictions.

3. Recite

The best way to battle temptation is to do it the same way Jesus did. When tempted Jesus fought temptation with Scripture.

While there are a number of verses that could be specifically applied to your specific temptation, let me share a good general verse you could recite when tempted, regardless of what the temptation may be. 1 Corinthians 10:13 says, “God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.” Recite this verse to remind yourself that your temptation doesn’t have to take you because God will always show you a way out.

I want to encourage you to start practicing this technique the next time anything in your environment tempts you. Shift your focus, take a couple deep breaths to regain control and recite some appropriate Scriptures. Every time you do, you are exercising your resisting muscles and strengthening your ability to say no to sin, and yes to God.

Where the Battle is Won

Sin is cyclical (it happens in cycles, in predictable patterns).
First comes enticement - you’re tempted by something that’s appealing to you, and you decide whether or not to entertain the temptation (i.e. you struggle with a food addiction and suddenly and unexpectedly out of nowhere a chocolate glazed donut appears in the break room at work. You immediately begin salivating. You also immediately remember that you are now trying to resist foods like this. Will you resist or indulge? This is the enticement stage). And this is what the apostle James was writing about when he said in James 1:14 “Each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed...”

Second comes entertainment - you entertain the temptation (i.e. you take a second look at the donut, you smell it, you imagine what it would be like to eat it, you flirt with it by sitting next to it at staff meeting all the while telling yourself you’re not going to actually eat it) The apostle James also spoke of this stage when he said in James 1:15 “Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin...”

Finally comes the indulgence stage - you give in by acting on the temptation (i.e. you grab that donut and stuff the whole thing in your mouth all at once. then go in search for more.) The apostle James speaks of this stage too in the second part of James 1:15 saying “and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.”

The battle against temptation is won at the enticement stage. It is not a sin to be enticed (to be tempted), but the Bible is clear: entertainment leads to indulgence (when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin). Knowing exactly where the battle is won or lost helps us know where to concentrate our efforts.

For tips on how to win at the enticement stage, check out my post The Distraction Technique.

April 24, 2012

National Community Church

In this post I want to reflect on my recent trip to National Community Church in Washington DC.

The providence of God. About ten years ago at college I met a friend named Matt. We were in a band together for a couple years, and to this day he has remained a good friend. As New Day is considering moving to a movie theater I called Matt, who works at National Community Church because they primarily meet in movie theaters. I never would have been able to make this visit and get a back stage tour of everything they do if God hadn't brought Matt into my life.

Market place ministry. This was a really cool concept I wasn't really familiar with before my visit. Let me illustrate the "market place ministry" concept. They bought a building and turned it into a coffee shop. They also use the coffee shop as a place for church services. For years they would film a live service Saturday night and then show the video of that service at their various movie theater locations on Sunday morning. It was so cool to see Christian books and resources littered around the coffee shop. Why can they do this? Because they own the coffee shop! In the picture below you'll see an advertisement for Mark's (their lead pastor) latest book Circle Maker and their worship band's latest album God Anthology.



They recently bought a movie theater and are planning to actually show movies there (they will hand pick movies that are already out of main theaters and reshow them). But this movie theater will also be one of their meeting places for church (in fact it already has been for over a year).

They also recently purchased a piece of land they will build a community center on. This community center...you guessed it...will also double as a meeting location for their church.

Their strategy actually involves plans NOT to ever buy a church building. They would rather practice what they call "market place ministry", a fascinating concept to me.

Proteges. Because NCC is a prominent and influential church of 2,000 people, college students from around the country actually raise money and then go work for NCC for a year. I'm sure some hope to get a job there, while maybe others are just looking to beef up their resume and get some experience. Either way, it was really exciting to me thinking that a church can get to the place where people want to be a part so bad they are willing to raise money and come work for free for a year. I hope this happens at New Day someday!

Resources. My friend Matt pointed me towards some cool new resources. Let me share them with you. 1) Path is an app for your iPhone that's similar to Facebook, but in my eyes better. 2) Mod Displays, and 3) Rose Brand

There was so much more I learned, but I just wanted to share a couple of my main reflections. Enjoy some pictures below! I also visited the Barracks Row campus but can't find my pictures!


Ebenezers Coffee House on Capital Hill


Georgetown Campus at AMC Loews


Potomac Yard Campus at Regal Cinemas


Ballston Campus at Regal Cinemas

April 19, 2012

Feast When You Fast

What do you do when fasting? The short answer is: you feast on God. When feeding you feast on food and when fasting you feast on God.
Jesus said in Matthew 4:4, "People do not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God." 

Jesus taught there is both physical and spiritual nutrition, and his followers must have both. As humans we need food, and when we eat some it provides us with physical nourishment. As Christians we need fellowship with God, through Bible reading and prayer, and when we have some it provides us with spiritual nourishment. 

Jesus didn't say "If you fast" rather "WHEN you fast" (Matthew 6:16). It's assumed. If fasting isn't a spiritual discipline you are currently practicing, why not start incorporating fasting into your weekly routine? Start with one meal and work your way up from there.